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does Personal Coaching work? |
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Coach Clients |
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As
your coach, I will inquire, encourage, advise, challenge, make requests,
and listen for your truth so that you remain aligned with who
you are, your goals, your values and your vision. My focus will be
completely on you and what you want in life; I stand for you
first and foremost, not just your goals. The
coaching relationship is designed by both of us, and may be refined
through ongoing two-way feedback. Even though I am committed to the
journey, you will ultimately be responsible for actions taken (or not
taken) in your life throughout the process. I
Expect Your Best We
should only be working together if you are ready to do and be your
best. If you are not doing your best, I will ask you to do so. If you
cannot be your best at the moment, I will understand and do what I can
so that you can be heard, supported and helped to get back on your path. I
Make Specific Requests From
time to time, I will make a direct request, such as “Will you
accomplish X by the end of the month?” You may accept the request,
counter-offer (e.g.: “I can’t do X, but I can do Y”) or decline
(rare). I will always support you, whichever way you respond. I
Give Advice If
I am sure of the situation, and you are open to it, I
will make specific suggestions on how to handle a problem or go for an
opportunity. If I am not sure, I will say so. Regardless, use the best
of what I say and use your own judgment. I
Am Direct When
I hear a
funny tone in your voice or notice something amiss, I will ask you about
it. Often, it is these small
moments that offer the chance to resolve something. However, I will not
confront you; I will merely invite you to take a closer look. I
Give Homework I
typically ask you to determine one or more goals or actions to focus on
between our calls. If I am pushing you too much, please say so. If you
want to be pushed harder, just ask. I’m
Here for You I
want to hear it all.
If you have a personal problem, are upset with something (including me
and/or the coaching), are just starting to realize something big, or can’t
wait to share a breakthrough, please call or e-mail me-
anytime.
I will do my best to be back in touch within 24 hours, weekdays. |
| HOW |
to
Get the Most from Coaching |
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I
want you to benefit greatly from our coaching calls and the time
in-between. This guide briefly outlines some of the things you can do to
maximize the value of your coaching experience. Focus
On What You Really Want Coaching
works best when you have clear goals that are based on your true values.
First, I encourage you to deeply consider what you want your life to
look like. Then, identify the gaps between
the way things are now and how you would
like them to be. Many people struggle with this, so if you are unsure
about what it is you really want to achieve, coaching is an excellent
tool that can provide you with greater clarity. Get
To Know Yourself--Newly Working
with a sensitive and empathic coach is a healthy way to grow. Most
clients hire a coach to work on specific goals, and much of the time
focus on these objectives. Yet, with coaching, many clients discover new
parts of themselves, and find they can adjust their goals to be more in
alignment with who they really are. This discovery process is natural,
and you do not need to concentrate on it, just realize it will likely
happen. Accelerated personal and professional growth is the hallmark of
coaching. Double
Your Level Of Willingness Part
of working with me as your coach is that I will ask a lot of you. Not
too much I hope, but perhaps more than you may have been asked recently.
I request that you be willing to experiment with fresh approaches and
try new beliefs. I will invite you to tell the absolute truth, raise
your personal standards, and set higher goals. Ultimately, you need to
decide what is best for you; however, the more willing you are to grow,
the greater the benefits from coaching. Come
Prepared To Each Coaching Call To
get the most value out of the coaching session, I request that you
prepare a written agenda for each call. Many of my clients use
the provided “Coaching Prep Form.” This does not have to be a big,
time-consuming event, but usually only requires 10-20 minutes. Investing
that small amount of time to prepare for the call and faxing or
e-mailing an agenda to me beforehand, will have a huge impact on our
session. Do
Your Homework Each week you will decide on the actions or goals on which you want to focus. I expect you to keep the commitments you make and will work with you to make sure you are setting worthwhile, realistic and achievable objectives. If you know that a busy week is ahead, your homework might be as simple as thinking about a new perspective. If you have more time, you might decide to handle a big task. Regardless, I will hold you accountable and encourage you to do your best. |
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Practicalities
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I. Payments All sessions are pre-paid or
paid for at the beginning of the session. Melissa accepts personal checks
and payments from your bank or your credit card through PAYPAL. II. Notice of Schedule Change III. Confidentiality IV. Ethical Standards I abide by the ethical standards of the International Coach Federation (ICF), the accrediting, standard bearing association for Personal and Professional Coaches throughout the world. They have a strictly enforced, tough Code of Ethics and Conduct: The Philosophy and Definition of Coaching, Pledge of Ethics, and Standards of Ethical Conduct |
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Coaching, by telephone, from anywhere in the world! |
| "It is easy to be the person you have always been, for it requires no change, no self-reflection, and no growth. It may appear that changing yourself requires giving up something. In reality, there is no need to give up anything--you must simply add to what has been." |