The alpha female

Truth: Commitment to Integrity

First and foremost, if you haven’t dedicated yourself to truth and integrity, you are not an Alpha Female. Period. Integrity is founded on our core beliefs, ideology, ethics, morals, attitudes, and ideals.

And we’re talking both internal truth—the story you tell yourself about what’s so, and external truth—the story you tell and live for others.

·        Let’s talk about our WORD. There are those in the world who never give their word.  They are either disconnected from the world, and therefore don't have the opportunity for interaction with other human beings, and the opportunity to give their word to another human being, or they simply are averse to being tied down or committed to anything they say.

·       There are those in the world who give their word, and have absolutely no intention of keeping it.  It is simply an accepted form of communication with other human beings and has no inherent integrity.

·        There are those in the world who give their word on a regular basis, and actually mean to keep it, at least some of the time.  These are the ”triers".  'We will try to get to your party.  I'll try to get that work done by tomorrow.  I'll try to remember to treat you that way'.

·        There are those in the world who give their word and dedicate themselves to doing everything they can to fulfill their word.  If they agree to do something, they either do it or they will be in touch if they choose or need to make a different agreement.  If they give their word, they don't easily betray that word or that commitment.  They don't easily change their mind. Honor is associated with their word.

·        And there are those in the world who create with their word.  Their future is built out of what they say today that they will do tomorrow.  

What stands in the way of honesty and integrity? Of truth?

·        self-deception and denial

o       the illusion of being right

o       the illusion of being perfect

o       the illusion of control

o       the illusion of objectivity and being open to others 

o       The denial of our own perceptions

·        other-deception and denial

Honesty is contagious, just like dishonesty is contagious.  We need more honesty in the world.  Many of us have prided ourselves on being honest.  We have always tried to be honest and we believe that we were.  It has been frightening when we've been told that we are “too honest”, or when we have been told that we will not be able to get ahead if we insist on being so “brutally honest”.  Slowly, we have learned to compromise.  We have learned to say what is expected of us and not to offend.  We've lost touch with the awareness that we are being dishonest when we go ahead and agree to do something that we really do not feel right about doing.  We've come not to expect honesty from ourselves or from those around us.  We are even surprised when we encounter it.
Anne Wilson Schaef

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